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How do you decide?

Every decision you make—every decision—is not a decision about what to do. It’s a decision about Who You Are. When you see this, when you understand it, everything changes. You begin to see life in a new way. All events, occurrences, and situations turn into opportunities to do what you came here to do. Neale Donald Walsch

We now know how we energize ourselves and how we process information. Today we will focus on how you come to your conclusions. What are the circumstances that you find easier to make a decision in as compared to others? Here is a an example to get you thinking….

You are 2 years into your startup venture. Things have been bumpy along the way but the 4 original partners have pulled through. Three of the partners in the firm get along really well with each other. The fourth member lets call him Tom, has not been pulling his weight for the last 6-8 months and is actually pulling the team down. Here is the interesting part, Tom and you have been friends since you were kids. Tom is also going through a very tough time with his mother being terminally ill. This has made it very difficult for you or any of the other team members to say anything. Your companies first hire, Peter, has been picking up all of Tom’s work and has been doing an incredible job. He draws a much lower salary than Tom. Now here is the deal, things are a bit tight at the company and you need to let someone go. You are the final decision maker and the choice is between Tom or Peter. Who do you let go?

(Think of a similar situation you may have been. Did you make the same choice at that time as well?)

If you chose Tom you fall in the “thinker” category if you chose Peter you are in the “Feeler” category. It sounds incredibly simple but helps us reach a very important conclusion about ourselves. On one hand of the scale you have the thinker. They like to take information and use it in a very logical manner. They tend to make practical decisions which may lead people to perceive them to be cold or heartless. However using the above example it makes sense if you want to take your company further it would definitely seem to be the logical choice. This impersonal analysis of the situation is something the thinkers do very well.

The feelers on the other end of the scale have a totally different perception. When making a decision they first see all the likely repercussions. It is inherent of a feeler to not ruffle too many feather and to maintain a sense of harmony in a given situation. To a thinker this sort of an approach may seem to be weak or illogical given the evidence. They make decisions based heavily on their value systems. Going against that is not very simple to do.

Like both the other scales we have talked about this one also doesn’t need you to be in an either/or situation. Use the example above and go with the choice which is the most natural to you and one you are comfortable in making. In doing so you will reach another very important conclusion about yourself as an entrepreneur, where decision making is critical in your rise to the top. Knowing which situations you can reach conclusions easily and decisively in will boost your overall productivity. You must always keep a balance in your team of thinkers and feelers. Both are necessary to reach an objective resolution.

5 Basic Fundamentals of Success

“A journey of a 1000 miles must begin with one step.” Ancient Chinese Proverb

1. Take 100% responsibility for your life: You are responsible for how you want your life to be. If you are constantly blaming external factors from limiting you to achieve what you want then you have to change. You have to examine how you are reacting to key events in your life. Are you ignoring feedback?, Blaming others for your mistakes?. You have to break away from these negative patterns and correct the way you respond to ensure you get the results you want. If you want to read more please click here.

2. Believing: Do you believe you can achieve all the goals you set for yourself? Do you believe that you have what it takes to make your business or relationship succeed? If you don’t then either you are not doing what you ought to be or you are not taking responsibility for your own life. All of us need something to believe in. This becomes your guiding light to take you to places where you never thought you could. I personally believe that I have all the key qualities for being an entrepreneur which are “Passion” & “Ambition”. Every project I undertake I ensure that these core values are infused into the team and that we all believe that we have what it takes to succeed. If you want to read more please click here.

3. Taking Action: Do you plan endlessly about the business you want to start? Waiting for the right time? Unfortunately there is no such thing as the right time. Successful people are highly action oriented. Talking about plans and idea’s is very easy but committing yourself to doing it is another ball game altogether. You have to step out of your comfort zone, learn how to rely on your “gut” and once you have decided on a path take that first step. Believe me thats the hardest one, after that it becomes much easier with all the feedback, suggestions and help you get along the way. If you want to read more please click here.

4. Confronting your fears: Is the fear of failure holding you back? This is a completely natural emotion that each and everyone experiences in our life. The key here is how we choose to respond to it. We can always go back into our shell and say its too difficult or that the time is not right. However if you want to achieve something out of the ordinary in life you have to confront the fears which are holding you back. Personally one of the fears I have always had is that of public speaking. Over the years however I have confronted it by taking classes and practicing in front of smaller audiences. I still have a long way to go but you have to begin somewhere. So confront the fears which are holding you back today and start to live the life you want. If you want to read more please click here.

5. Asking for Feedback and Using it Constructively: When we start any new project, business, relationship or job we usually make ourselves believe that we are doing the best we can be. This attitude sadly limits the rate at which we grow. An exponential catalyst to help us to learn and grow much faster is to ask for Feedback. You have to start asking your business partners, team mates, clients, friends and family as to how you are doing. You need to then constructively use this feedback to make life better for those around you and most importantly yourself. This will unlock your true potential and give you a whole new perspective on life. If you want to read more please click here.

Once you have mastered these basic fundamentals you are on your way to achieving anything you want in life.

p.s To all my loyal readers: The last day of every week will be a recap. This will help in reinforcing the concepts as well as being a review page for those who want a quick review. I want to thank each and everyone of you who read everyday and for all the emails and comments you sent. It was greatly appreciated. Thank you.
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